What i want from my life partner....???

After completing my engineering, i started working as a lecturer in an engineering college......

When a girl completes her graduation, the family generally starts looking for a suitable match for the girl..... she has a list of expectations AND the guy has another list of expectations...... and the process of rejection goes on and on for a couple of years......

i feel, the number of expectations you have from your life partner is directly proportional to the number of years it takes to find a compatible life-partner....

In our case,our relatives gave us a helping hand by suggesting a number of rich, well-educated, the only son, handsome, good natured, caring, home-loving ( these guys never turn to be caring and home-loving after marriage..).......

i was almost convinced that my family was going to make me tie a knot within a year or two.....only because i had completed my graduation, had a decent job and primarily because i has entered the so called "MARRIAGABLE AGE"........


But, after the horrible life as a student...... and after being harassed by uncountable number of teachers for their assignments, submissions, projects and the 75% attendance in engineering......... i wanted to live a tension-free life....and i wanted to enjoy being a teacher for at least two years...... but the great efforts taken by my family to snatch away my tension-free life made me think harder...... i still wanted to distribute by half/incomplete knowledge of computer networks among my students(the knowledge was however up-to-date when i left the job ;-))...... i wanted to work for atleast 3-4 years before i wanted to step into a new life...

i then decided to find my way out.... i declared one day that i wished to study further.... My family being an education oriented one, convincing everyone about mydecision was not so difficult..... my decision was well-taken..... without any opposition..... i pretended to have started my studies for the CET by borrowing some notes from my friends..... i then told my mom that the match making process was a disturbance in my studies and that she should halt it at least for a few more years.... Her reaction was an Unwilling "OK".....

i thought my plan was successful and that i would get a chance to enjoy my freedom for atleast 2 more years...... However ...... all good things come to an end..... and so did my plan....

From the next day.... my mother started looking for a match who would let me study and complete my MBA even after marriage :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( HUH!!!!!!!!!!!

I gave up....... :-(

One day we had some surprise visitors at home... they were Ashish's relatives..... they had come to our place... to convey a message that the horoscopes were matching and that we could proceed further.....

I did not have a say on this since there was no scope to mess things up at that stage...

Ashish was expected to visit our place after about 2 days......
All i could do to stop all this was to call up my students and fix up a picnic at titwala.... this was a master idea.....which had struck my mind when i went to titwala just a month ago.....

It was mid-May..... scorching heat.....and i am terribly allergic to the sun....i knew that i would be as dark as Nelson Mandela.... if i arranged a "Walk all the way from titwala station to titwala mandir" trip at 1.00 in the after noon...

We left the next day..... about 10 students and me..... the students unaware of my wicked plans....
The gals said that we should take a "Ghoda-gadi" to the mandir but i suddenly decided to get into my Teacher's shoes and told them that people who want their wishes to be fulfilled should walk all the way to the mandir....

Worried about the internal marks... my students decided to follow me..... hehe!!!!!!! :-) :-) :-)
we walked all the way to the mandir..... and back....

When i came back home.... my mother almost collapsed..... :-( she could not believe that i had tanned myself to such an extent that no guy on earth would be ready to marry me....
She began shouting at the top of her voice.....
I pretended to be guilty... and tried to convince my mother saying that i could not break my student's heart... and that.... they wanted to walk all the way to the temple.... ;-)

What was going to happen the next day .... was very much expected....

The next day...was spent by me in the beauty parlor.....doing whitening facials..... to get the tan off my Face!!!!!
but as you know...more the charges...less is the chance of success....

The same thing happened...... the facials were of absolutely no use....... :-)

Ashish was expected the next day.....
i wore a dull-blue colored dress......(least did i know that blues us Ashish's fav. color)
All set to be rejected by my first match.....

Mammu (My mother) told me that i should think of what i would want to ask him....(my expectations)
i was least interested in thinking about it..... because i was 100% sure that my tanned-dark brown face would make wonders...... ;-)

Ashish came home....

A simple, Down-to-earth guy.......

He gave a "RAPCHICK" entry by asking about by pets.... and to my wonder....he knew the names of my pets...... Hailaaaaa...!!!!!!!!
Thats where he first took away my heart.........

No one in the family, friends, or known ones are ever interested in asking about my pets.... or even listening to what i have to say about them...
And this guy.... knowing my pets by their names....already.... was like a pleasant surprise....

(I CAME TO KNOW LATER... THAT THIS WAS HIS TRICK TO IMPRESS ME..... JUST LIKE I HAD USED THE "TAN WALA TRICK" TO MAKE HIM REJECT ME)

okies.... jokes apart.....
now the interesting part.....

in the 21st century, an IIT Ph.D knew my orkut account in and out....
he knew all about my likes-dislikes....

my testimonials were like....... by-heart to him...

he began by saying that so-n-so is written on the third line of your 23rd testimonial....

HUH!!!!!!
I was like........TOTALLY FLAT......

Man........!!!! Maine toh kabhi school mein bhi itna home-work nahi kiya tha!!!!!!!!

He went on... by telling me all the facts about myself.... which he had discovered from my orkut account and the communities..... some facts were not even known to me....

Hang on...!!!!!!!!!

He did speak about things other than my orkut account.....
he told us about his ventures..... about his experiments with his business.....
the problems he faced in life....
about his family.....
about himself......
about his expectations and much more....
In every statement, there was truth..... and sincerity....

within an hour.... he was so comfortable ..... that he began cracking jokes..... and my mother was laughing her hearth out..... but i was still finding that pet-lover-husband in him......Hmmmmm!!!!

I somewhere found truth in whatever he had to tell us, he told us about his success stories as well as his struggle....

I came to know that our thoughts were quite matching......

He asked me about my expectations.....
What the hell could i say....... i was not prepared for this moment.....
i was prepared for that "REJECTED" look........ but believe me..... he could not even notice that i was as dark as a rat......he looked deep into my heart..... and stole it within no time.....

i wont mention the looooooong flash-back and the inside story.....

but we tied the knot on 20th May 2008......

Since then, i am the happiest person in this world.....
He pampers me like anything.....
Loves me more than himself.......
and tries to correct me when i am wrong (but he is never successful)...... ;-)

They say that when u get married, you don't marry the groom but you also marry the family as well....
the family was in fact the best part....

they have given me immense love, care, freedom, lots of goodies and can u imagine...........Ashish has given me 5 more pets since then..... 2 bullocks and 3 buffaloses...... wow!!!!!!!!!!

Life has been great since i met Ashish....
I was not willing to get married because i thought i was not prepared to take the additional responsibility and probably because i was not prepared to lose my freedom...

But now.... i am still like a free bird..... doing all the things i did before marriage.... but the only difference is that.... i now have a wonderful company...... and thats Ashisih.....
And the responsibility ???????

i have gelled up so well with Ashish and his family, that i just feel the additional unconditional love that has come my way......n nothing else

So, thats my success story....
I hope everyone is as lucky as i am...

n i hope everyone finds a soul-mate.... just like i found mine.... In Ashish......

Ashish - I LOVE YOU